Although the foundation is the same, the rest are different when it comes to mature dating. Those tricks and techniques that are acceptable and have garnered a good outcome earlier in one’s life will not be suitable in later years.Often, by this time in your lives, all the passive things that come with relationships in young adulthood should have been removed. But, if there are still some things that are lurking underneath that calm aura afforded to mature people, then you should read on. Here are some feasible tips to help you ease your way into the mature dating scene.
Kill that mental list you have since third grade of the perfect mate. Putting prerequisites on love is the best way not to get it. Think out of the box and color beyond the lines. We’re not saying that you should settle for whoever is available. We do, however, recommend that you give someone who you wouldn’t normally date a chance. Allow yourself to unfold to a person who doesn’t fit your bill.
You may not be as perky on some areas that are supposed to be, but you have more to offer than just being BFF’s with gravity. Changing your appearance is good, but it’s only a bandage. Treat the wound first. Change the way you look at yourself. Dig a hole and bury those self-doubts that have been haunting you for so long.
Haven’t you had enough of those already? Isn’t that the reason why you’re looking for a new paramour right now? Do we really need to emphasize the fact that life’s too short for BS?
What we’re about to say is full of love and compassion, like a best friend would: stop being an idiot. Don’t tolerate a bad attitude only to avoid being alone. The worst thing you can do to make your life a notch harder is to settle for less just because you’re afraid to look for the best. You probably have less dating years but that’s not a good excuse to start a relationship with Satan’s favorite nephew.
Keep your hopes to a minimum. Don’t feel bad when the date doesn’t turn out the way you hoped it would. Dating is a way to check if you can have a possible romantic relationship with a certain someone. It is not an audition for your next husband or wife.
Some mature daters are emotionally guarded, probably due to years of rough experiences. Their most convenient answer to their somewhat ‘constipated’ attitude is this: ‘Life happened to me’. Well, it happens to all of us.